Dr. Pinhas,
When a girl uses a sex toy (object that penetrates) while having intercourse with one other partner
does this mean she would like to have sex with more than one partner or the toy is just an accessory
she likes to use while having sex with her partner.
Anonymous
Response from Dr. Pinhas
Without creeping into this girl’s head to assess her fantasies, there is no way to know whether she wants more than one sex partner. Just because she uses a sex toy tells us nothing about her wish for a menage-a-trois. Certainly her using a sex toy that penetrates her ( anally I suspect, if she is having sexual intercourse with you at the same time) tells us more about her wishes for additional or diverse sexual stimulation. If she is not penetrating herself anally, is she using the sex toy vaginally and alternating between it and your penis? Is the sex toy a vibrator? She may need additional stimulation internally depending on the shape of the sex toy. If it is curved, this would be one way of it hitting her Grafenberg spot, which may be an active one, capable of producing orgasm in her vagina. Certainly if she assumes the female dominant position of sexual intercourse, the sex toy may be unnecessary, because your penis will stimulate her “G” spot. If the sex toy is curved and vibrates at the same time, the vibration may be what’s at issue in helping her achieve orgasm vaginally. Your penis cannot compete with a vibrating object unless you have skills that are other worldly!! ( LOL) All of these hypotheses, are just mere guesses, because your question was vague and puts me into guessing mode. Keep things ” on face value” and assume that she likes additional stimulation sexually. I believe the toy is just a sexual accessory.
What is more curious however, is your question. Why would you assume that the use of said toy, would in any way be an indicator of a threesome? Is the sex toy stimulating sexual fantasies in you of more than one partner? Hard to assess this without peering into your head.
just like you said Dr Pinhas, i doubt there is a way to figure out if she wants another partner to join in the activity without her being totally honest about it.
i would try to find a way to forwardly ask the question and find out what’s in her head because if that really is the case, it may affect the relationship in a longer run…
but at the same time, maybe she is just using the toy just to increase the pleasure and to have a little more fun.
i don’t think there is anything wrong with that. it would be as if she was playing with her nipples or something of the sort; just to make the experience a little more pleasurable.
but like i said; i think it’s important to find out what she is thinking and why she uses the toy.
“Certainly her using a sex toy that penetrates her ( anally I suspect, if she is having sexual intercourse with you at the same time) tells us more about her wishes for additional or diverse sexual stimulation” I agree with you 100% on this Dr. Pinhas. In a past relationship, the girl i was with would frequently incorporate an object that would penetrate her anally. I did bring this up with her and she basically said the same thing Dr. P did. She said she liked the additional stimulation during sex and that nothing was wrong with me. So in short dont over think any of it and think she wants a menage-a-trois it could be she just wants to try something new or enjoys extra stimulation.